“The secret of change is to focus all your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new.” -Socrates
I sit, like every other day, feeding and settling Little One, when the announcement arrives. Little One is now 2 weeks old and the arrival of the new ‘Prince’ has been announced. No, not my prince… the ‘real’ prince! Baby Prince George is presented to the world through the paparazzi lens, and Princess Kate emerges in all her sweet, royal glory. I gaze on in admiration and excitement (and relief that we [ok, more like “I”] bumped “George” off our baby name short-list only weeks earlier. *phew*) She exudes elegance, poise and calm as she faces the scrutinising eyes of the public. She moves swiftly and comfortably. I look at myself, in my exhausted delirium, still wearing my pyjamas, trying to remember if I’ve had a shower yet, thinking: “I wish I was her”. In the same breath I’m relieved that there are no cameras trying to get a glimpse of this current train-wreck. Headlines would read, “Injured Yeti sighted in Sydney suburb with young infant.”
“I hope I look like Princess Kate after I’ve had a baby… oh wait… hmmm… that’s awkward.”
As I pass the “6 week” mark, I’m surprised that my life hasn’t yet gone back to normal as everyone promised. This magical 6 week mark, where normal life recommences. The 6 week mark when celebrities reveal their ‘post-baby bod’. The 6 week mark where gym enthusiasts recommence their combat and yoga classes. The 6 week mark when our bodies should have bounced back to health. I still look pregnant and there is nothing ‘normal’ about anything. I haven’t worked out this motherhood thing yet, pain and aches are a new norm, my body feels like it’s been ruined for good, I have no clothes that fit me, but I am finding myself warming up to this needy little creature.
I remember those forceful jumps during pregnancy as Little One use to hiccup in my stomach; the fear and relief. I’m in awe each time he now hiccups in my arms. It’s surreal; that was in there! I feel my heart leaning towards him often and I’m convinced that he knows me. I watch him all the time. As I check on him for the ten-thousandth time in the hour, it’s clears his wellbeing is my current life purpose. I even poke him at times to ensure he’s still ‘breathing’. I’m assured this is ‘normal’ first-time-mother behaviour. He stares at me differently than others. It sounds crazy, but I feel that he “smiles” at me with his eyes. These claims are often dismissed by others; “he’s too young, it’s probably gas… wishful thinking!” What a way to kill the joy, but I’m convinced he’s telling me something. I’m not going crazy.
It’s starting to make a little more sense. I finally understand a bit more of the fuss. Just when I began to think that this misery was my new lot in life, that moment happened. That moment when he looked at me with that same stare, and he smiled at me for the first time.
Little Man, that just made these last few horrendous weeks a little more bearable. The puzzle pieces are slowly beginning to reveal a bigger picture…
And then my soul saw you and it kind of went, “oh there you are. I’ve been looking for you.”