“ Do not fear for I have redeemed you; I have summoned you by name; you are mine. When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned…
Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland.” -Isaiah 43
Damaged, dry, desolate, lacking.
With all the many blessings that surround me daily; with health, family, friends, safety and freedoms… I’m dry. A vacuum. I’m living in a wasteland. Every morning I place my hands on my belly. I take a deep breath and attempt to at least utter a plea to God. Every morning all I can voice is, “I’ve got nothing.” Nothing. I’ve got nothing to say. Nothing to ask. No appeal. No defence. I still continue to drag myself to church on Sundays. The music is suffocating. It’s moving. It’s a battle to endure. I will not let myself be taken by it. Every word now bares so much weight. Too much weight. I’m blessed, but angry. I’m faithful, but filled with doubt. I’m grateful, but silent. I’m still damaged, but remain. Life’s moved on, but I’m stagnant. I feel as if I’m destined to feel this way forever.
Someone fix me.
I’m now 15 weeks and 6 days. The time has arrived for my next ultrasound. The ‘early anomaly scan’ can be done from 15 weeks and is the earliest time any ‘anomalies’ can be detected, hence its name. It’s amazing that only in these short few weeks since the last scan, everything is in existence. Everything should now be in its right place. It’s also the earliest that gender can be accurately determined. The great debate… to find out or not? We’ve already decided we want to know. I need to know. I need to imagine him/her into health. I’m already convinced it’s a girl.
I let hubby come in this time. Our doc does his work as I stare intently at his face looking for clues. He catches my eye; “If I’m quiet and say nothing, it is a good thing”, he assures.
“Perfect health. Your baby is perfectly healthy. Nothing like last time.”
Does this mean we can breathe now? Before we leave, we ask the doc if he knows the gender. With a chuckle he exclaims “YES!” and scans back over my tummy. He makes conversation asking us what we think we’re having. Hubby can tell instantaneously. I have no idea what I’m looking at. It’s a black and white blobby puzzle. The doc explains, “That’s the legs wide open… and that’s…”
A boy!
I’m in disbelief. A little man. A son. Our son.
With the news of health we have received, it’s finally time to go ‘public’. School holidays are nearly over, so the timing has worked out well. There’s no more hiding this stomach. We make it Facebook official with a cutesy family photo. It’s fake. There were no smiles before or after that shot, which was taken with my phone on timer hitched up on our garbage bin. For me, however, it’s a testament of things to come. For now we are fearful, but one day I will look back at that photo and feel joy. I will be grateful we did it. I will… I believe it. It will be my self-fulfilling prophecy. No more denying. Toughen up that skin. Get that smile ready. You’ve got the world to fool. All is ok. You are blessed. You’re ready for this.
Do not fear. I will be with you. Do not dwell on the past. I am doing a new thing.
With all this news of health, the arid residual air still breathes through me.
I’m bone dry. I’m getting desperate.
God, please send your stream. I’m tired of living in this wasteland.
What if I fall?
Oh, my darling, what if you fly?